Are you living your life — or your partner’s, grandchildren’s, or children’s lives? With your career a passion: that you love? Possibly, your manager or boss, are they consuming your time?
I am 80 years old and still living a fun-filled life, so far. I can voice those words. I have made some choices that have put me in a good place in my life. When I write the column, I share my life and hope some of my experiences can help you to jump start yours without too much insanity. (Smile or grin).
Your partner: On the negative side, I knew a schoolteacher who paid her husband’s tuition to law school; when he finished, he left her for the secretary.
My mother said, “If you want something bad enough, you will earn it. “I returned to college, worked, raised my children and received my degree when I was 50 years old. I did take a 10-year hiatus.
Have you chosen to participate in activities without your partner? My friends and activities are what keep me stimulated.
Grandchildren: I read in this month’s AARP, a senior magazine, that a staggering number of grandparents will babysit or raise their grandchildren. I am not in those statistics, because although I love my grandchildren and fortunate to enjoy them when they were little people, they are all grown, and I can watch them from afar. Since this grandmother — me — works every day, writes three monthly columns, a blog, and is author of two books with another in its draft stages, my grandchildren and great-grandchildren call for an appointment.
Children: I had thought about purchasing a home when the children were young. I became too busy. Lucky for me, a good decision was made during that time, when I lived in a 7-room flat for 10 years. One of my family members would need a place to stay periodically. That situation would be in-and-out drama with her family/children. When I moved into my 1-bedroom apartment, there was no room for extra people. Why? My space is small, and enough for me. I also learned to say “No!”
Career: Do you now, or did you have one in the past? Although I have had jobs for 60 years, my career has been in lecturing and writing for more than 27 years. These have been my passions, which brings me joy.
Do you work hard to make your boss or manager look good? Are you appreciated? I met a woman in the Laundromat eight years ago; she was always on her cell phone. We struck up a conversation. It turned out she was talking to her boss. Also, I had met her husband. I suggested to her that she needed to use a time clock for her work on weekends when typing her work. Her husband said he has been trying to get her to relax on weekends.
I went to the laundromat on the same day for years. Then I changed my days. I saw her again years later. She told me her husband was sick, and she had to care for him. She has no time to talk to her boss on weekends. I tried to explain to her that time will get away from her. Sometimes we give, but do not always get rewarded on the job.
Do you put others before yourself? A man’s life is a single statement, according to Howard Thurman, a minister from 1899-1981.
How would you describe yourself? Myself? I’m a friendly, caring woman. I am on YouTube,
“Host for older women’s issues,” at www.youtube.com/watch?v=kA9HwhKY40U. I can also be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org
. My blog is on a simple site, www.Midgettscorner.com.