The word that fits my feeling best is orgasmic when I write this column. Yes! That’s what I wrote! Orgasmic, sex, good feeling. Are you participating in anything that makes you feel good while you journey into your seniorhood? OK! I know everyone doesn’t feel this way. Hopefully, some of these readings will be helpful towards your journey. For first readers of this column, I will be 80 years young on August 4. AARP — the magazine for us vintage men and women — considers age 55 as seniors. Someone always wants to change something. You know that 40 is the new 30.
In my opinion the magazine is not excepting us 60-year older men and women. And a 50-year old is still in their prime. When I was fifty, I had no thought of retiring and feeling old. I was dancing. At age 50, you still have a lot of time left in life. Oh well, think what you want to — are you afraid of getting old? That was the opening question in the column beginning on ageing in June 2015. Do you or did you anticipate this part of your life?
When you think of aging, what are your thoughts? Helplessness, physical health, changes in facial features, body images, senior home, negative response from children. Finances, relationships and being alone.
Or traveling, working, doing volunteer work, starting a business. All of our lives are different. I will answer some of these questions from my and others that I have interviewed. Negative aspects of retiring: Helplessness
. Can’t do for yourself, mentally disabled, scared of aging? Afraid to reach out. Difficulty saying no to family, friends, coworker, neighbors. I never heard anyone when “no” was the response who died. Some might give you an attitude. Maybe it was time you stop being the doormat. Physical Health
. Do you have health insurance? Have you sought out health care information for your future? There are still places you can get a free checkup. In my area there are two senior centers where health information and physical help are available on certain days of the month. What is your health status and age now? If you’re still in decent shape, start a regiment of walking. Three to four days for 15 minutes. I do four to five days a week, or 15 minutes to a half hour, depending on your plan. I have a senior ex coworker walking partner who is my neighbor. She retired and is now age 76. We walk four days a week.
Sometimes the length of time is an hour, if she can’t walk that day. I will call a long-distance friend on the East Coast who is retired and has diarrhea of my mouth like myself. The time goes quickly when you’re talking.
If you are still working and have a scheduled walk with coworkers, that’s a good beginning when you retire. Look for a walking partner in the neighborhood.
Overweight is not the end of your being. Rethink your eating habits. Body image. It’s yours, do you like it? Welllllll! I don’t want to advocate a weight program. If you email me, I will share. Change in facial features
. So! What do you expect? The lines are inevitable, but not always. I have no lines or dark circles underneath my eyes or bags. If you stayed in the sun to get my color, well you have to pay the price. Bottom line, accept it, or have a face lift? OK! Go for it, do whatever makes you feel beautiful. Keep in mind skin changes as we age. Also beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I look in the mirror and see aging to perfection. How do you see yourself? Body images.
If you’re looking at the United States images of what women should look like, especially women 55 plus, yes! Images are looking better on TV But many have been negative, and it would take a while for this country to view us as fat and fine, old and vintage, intelligent with knowledge from experiences, ours and others.
You need to define your own body image. If not, you are in trouble. Women designers are seeing us as fat, fine and sexy, with the models adding to the scene.
Thank you women!
My journey continues from past to present. To be continued….. Dating — Part #6 I enjoy mail
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