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Ageing and Displaced

Fri, 01 Apr 2016 18:05:00
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Midgett
Ok! So I’m on an aging roll, you got a problem with it? Just kidding.
   
Since the birth of this column almost nine years ago, I have written about life topics. Yet in reality, we are all going to age. I’m just preparing you for it in a positive journey.
   
My topics are all issues that we have dealt with or that are forthcoming. Here are some memorable ones. Although all the topics are inspirational, some are more eye-openers — Spring Cleaning: April 2, 2012; Table Talk, January 1, 2015; and Memories and celebration Sept. 1, 2012.
  
Is your relationship your comfort zone? Your life? Without this one, you may think you couldn’t go on? You both are glued at the hip. Why? How did this happen. I will write some scenarios that come upon us as we age and or become lonely. Or the terms we use, such as “I can’t go on,” when a relationship is over or your loved one dies. I have never said that I can’t go on, after two marriage and some adventures, Oh boy! Did I go on? Actually it was all good. (Big grin on my face.)
  
Writing this portion of the column really is fun for me. Why? Because at age 79, I am having a great time. Don’t get me wrong. I would love to have a partner or companion, not necessarily to come home to, but to chat, have dinner some time or a roll in the hay. A book I read recently mentioned that if a women takes a trip to the barn we are called ho’s — when men do it, it’s all right. Wellllllllllllllll.
  
As we age, a few things happen which leaves us alone. Many of our friends, children or partners pass. Some prepare for this situation, while others don’t. When I say prepare, it is because some individuals make partners their life.
  
Let’s look at ages 45 to 50.What were those years like? OK! You made some wrong choices now that you are adding more zeroes to your age. Life goes on. First, aging is not a choice, nor life.  So work with what you have. What do you have? Health? What’s it like? That includes exercise. If you haven’t walked or have a good food plan, nothing is ever too late.
   
I returned to walking after slowing down for a while because I was busy writing and working. Even though I am retired, I substitute five days a week. Why? Because I don’t know how to say no when my colleague’s call me to work in their classrooms while they take a much-needed vacation. I know what it is like to have a substitute that can control the students. Some students are challenging. Me, too! When you returning to your classroom you would like it to be in the same order you left it.
   
Since retiring in 1970, what is important is that I still have knowledge that I continue to share with the students. My love for the written and verbal exchange puts me in a category of continued learning. What does this have to do with a partner, ageing and the time spent with myself? A lot. This might sound cold but I came into this world alone, and that is the way I will leave. It is up to me to make the best of what I enjoy. Then sharing will be fun.
   
When we lose a loved one after many years, or with short term relationships, sometimes we can do crazy.

Send me an email at midgettsf@aol.com.  I enjoy receiving email. Happy New Year!

 
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