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Wed, 01 Jul 2015 10:51:00
Article by:
Midgett
Are you afraid of ageing? If you have one wrinkle, television will give you the impression that life is over. I am 78. What does ageing mean to you, loneliness, death, alone, or just another day in your positive busy life? I know this is not everyone’s scenario.
  
I am writing this information from my own and many other women’s experience who were of all ethnic backgrounds. Their ages were 50-plus. I did this survey to also add to my book, entitled “I’m 78 and Still Having Fun.” The book has been in progress for 4 years.
   
When I started the book it was called “Girlfriend, I’m 74 and Still Having Fun.” What does that tell you? I am not giving up. Do you have a dream goal? I continue to write or make notes toward the book. I feel good about my ageing and know this book will get to the public eye. I’ve lived this book and my life continues to be an interesting journey.
  
You could ask yourself, “Why she is taking so long to finish the book?” The reason is that every day something adds to my journey. I received an email which read that I had won an award, which surprised me. It was because of the work I had done in the community for over 20 years. Because I was then asked to write a piece. Another interruption. Writing a response to the question brought back wonderful memories about the journey I was on to get this award. Little things pop up which sets me back in finishing the book. Now I will be attending fun dates on some weekends to come. Again, time taken away from the computer. It’s all good.
  
Some of the following excerpts were composed by a group of women called The Grey Panthers. I think the year was in the 1980s:

  • Ageism is arbitrary discrimination on the basis of chronological ageAgeism is a serious and pervasive as sexism and racism.
  • The subject of affects all persons: we are all becoming older. Rather than appreciating life and the ageing process, ageism leads people to scorn or fear of growing old.
  • Ageism conditions us to despise and devalue or own experience, gray hair and wrinkles.Let’s start in the beginning. Parents usually controlled your life until the  age of 14. First job, babysitting. Age16, big time working as a cashier. Then between 16 and 18, some kind of sensual/sexual relationship was formed with another human. College or marriage, which was it for you?
18–25. Maybe out of high school, possibly college, travel or marriage. Then makeup begins. 25–35. Family, working, career.
25–35. Besides marriage, children and work. You begin to think you are getting old at age 40. Some of you might consider returning to school. I did, and received my graduate degree at age 50. I had taken a 10-year break before returning to college.

35–45. Children have bonded with friends. Then considering moving out.
45–55. You begin to ask yourself, “What I will do now that the children are gone? What does my future look like? Do I want to retire in 10 years?”          
55–60. I return to school for a graduate degree.

60–70. Continued teaching. Retired at age 70.
70–78. I substituted as a teacher in the SFUSD five afternoons a week. Facilitate parenting workshop and composing and 2 books.
78– Affiliated with three organizations.

To be continued in the next column … How to stay youthful.

View Midgett on YouTube, "Host for Older Women’s Issues," 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNK8wZkVnLo.  Midgett is also on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/mary.midgett. Midgett says, "I enjoy mail. Send me an email."  Midgettsf@aol.com.

 
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