What is your table talk? Is it boring, funny, exciting or informative?
Some environments stimulate varied topics for table talk. Some of the following topics can be guide post for invitation to conversation: husband and wife, weather, children, partner’s relationships, recent news, finances, weight.Interactions
Family: Some times that can be a sticky subject. Even if you as a couple decided he would be the house husband, would he be a happy camper if you came home and bragged about your job constantly? Is it a good idea for you to be constantly criticizing him about how he is raising the children or doing the housework? Especially if you both agreed on this arrangement. Coming together at the dinner table should be fun and fun sharing information. Discuss positive things at the dinner table. If there is constant bickering at the table, then you both need to discuss a different arrangement. Talking about what is wrong needs to be discussed privately. This will give the children examples about positive sharing with the family.
Weather: Constant complaining about the weather it is not a great conversation topic. Why? You have no control over what it will be from one moment to the next. You might complain that it is too hot. Maybe the other person likes heat. For some the snow can be great, especially if you have a skier in your presence. Then again everyone cannot afford to go to the mountains and ski. Eating dinner could be a luxury at this table.
Children: Everyone does not want children. Are you constantly nagging your friends about having children? Why? Children are expensive because financial, emotional and health needs are greater than yours. Why? You’re the leader.
Partner: Are you dating? How long were you dating before you made the decision to live together? Are your conversations a continuation of battering each other? For example, if you choose to live with each other and one does not have a job in the beginning of the relationship, why are you dwelling on this subject? You knew what the finances were for both of you. When you went on dates, who paid? How about the rent? How often had you told this individual about his/her job status? What was the answer?
Relationship: Don’t brag if your friends are single. Especially if they give you that look every time you talk about Kendra or Jordan. Stop nagging about marriage or living together.
Finances: Tell me how you are making more money. Where can I find a job at a reliable employment agency? If you have a business, share your idea.
Occupations: What kind of occupation do you have? Do you enjoy what you do? Do you constantly complain about it? Are you going to quit? Is that your table talk every time when you have a conversation with someone? How do you think a person or group feels when you constantly complain? The conversation becomes boring.
Weight: Let me enjoy my meal.
Sounds as if there is nothing to talk about. Not true.
Table talk should be a positive situation. For some this might be the only time and place to have a fun social environment. Especially if you don’t get a chance to share often or have a group or individuals near you. So make the conversation pleasant. E-mail can be sent to Midgettscorner@aol.com
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"New York Flavor with a San Francisco Beat," and
"Brown on Brown: Black Lesbian Erotica." Soon to be released:
"I’m 77 and Still Having Fun."