Have you thought about exploring, creating and learning something different in your life? Do you think your life will be more exciting if you make some changes? Are you stagnant now? Is your life on hold? We know changes can be scary, especially if you have been living an unexciting lifestyle. Do you work, come home, eat then watch television or turn on the radio put in a CD, listen to love songs and hope someone will come in your life and make it better? [Smile.]
I am not talking about people who love their job, but about men and women who have no life after work.
I worked two jobs for 25 years, raised two children and was involved in community work during that time. I have won numerous awards for my involvement in the community.
I shared with my friend the other day that for the life of me I do not know how I involved myself with outside activities, along with working and doing fun things with my children and friends. As the expression goes, “Find a need and fulfill.” There is always something to do in your community — or as my neighbor said — it makes you feel good. Volunteers are always needed.
I can now enjoy my profession, which is teaching, speaking and writing. My neighbors continually say, “Didn’t you retire?” They see me going out of my door almost five days a week with a briefcase. Because I don’t have to do lesson plans and papers that were required from teachers, I can walk in a classroom and give love and educational information to the youngsters who are the future.
I began my writing, speaking and comedy skits after work for enjoyment in the late 70s in the Bay Area. I would attend open mike shows where it was my place to shine.
Also, I was a paid relief counselor, which was a helping profession that I enjoyed. As a result, I gained people skills. In one mental health facility the teens were ages 14–19. They either returned home when they completed the program or to foster care.
Later, I worked with seniors in a mental health transitional house. I resigned last July.
Can you make a change in your life without too much stress? If you wanted to be a runner, start a walking regimen to get your legs in shape. My best friend told me that is how she became a marathon runner in New York. She started walking in Central Park. Each day she ran further. When it was time to sign up, she was ready. Winning was not important; doing was the key. She was 38 years old. Age is not important.
Did you want to be a cook? Either look into the culinary schools or start a business in your house. My neighbor who was a nurse for forty years retired. She put out flyers in the nearby bar where I lived that advertised healthy meals for sale that she cooked on Fridays and Saturdays. She did what she enjoyed. It wasn’t about the money; cooking was her pleasure and sharing. She created a situation that made her happy. She also learned how to make an enticing flyer on her computer.Mary Midgett is the author of
"New York Flavor with a San Francisco Beat." The San Francisco resident is available to do presentations and seminars on social and family negotiations. She also conducts workshops on parent self esteem and social and intimate relationships.
She can be contacted by email at email@example.com
. She can be viewed on You Tube
, "Host for Older Women’s Issues," at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNK8wZkVnLo